What clinics did you use?

[stacysea]

Oh thats ok. Actually I went for my saline ultrasound and trial transfer today. Now I just have to wait for them to call and schedule a consult appointment. But I did find some embryos that I had Bonnie send to them for review. And I think after they approve them she sends our profile to the donor family. I hope they accept us!!

[maybeoneday]

YIPPIE...sounds like things are moving along well for you. I hope they accept you guys too.
We were turned down 4 times before we were accepted, but we also already have several children...that seemed to be our problem...so if one doesn't work out, don't get discouraged...you will get accepted by the right one if you keep on trying.

I am so excited for you!

[maybeoneday]

Stacysea...I just wanted to check in with you to see how things are going. I hope it's all going smoothly.

[stacysea]

Maybe, still waiting for my clinic to review the embryology reports. It has been a week now. I think I may give them a call today to see what the hold up is. Getting annoyed!!

[maybeoneday]

Did you call your clinic? Arg doctor office can be so frustrating. I hope they looked over the report and will accept the embryos. Has Bonnie submitted your profile to the donors?

I have been bugging my new RE. We are doing another donation, we would like to have one more, but we decided to go with an RE this time. Not for anything Bonnie did, but because of other reasons, some personal, some donor related. Embryo donation isn't really done around here....this office rarely does them so they don't have a real plan in place. The embryos we want have been frozen since 2004 and they are no having a lawyer look at the paperwork etc. .Seems like it's taking forever. They have also put a call into the donors to see if they would be willing to sign more paperwork if needed. I haven't hear anything yet. Most RE clinics have the donors sign the embryos over to them to donate to whomever, but this clinic lets the donors set criteria. So that is nice for the donors, but they don't actually pick the recipients. this batch would be totally anonymous, unless they have changed ther minds. It's been two months since our first visit with this clinic. My husband is getting tired of waiting!

[stacysea]

It seems like if you go through the RE for donation it is alot cheaper. My clinic does not offer that service. I cant find one around here that does that. Good luck. I left my Dr. office a message but no return call yet. I am frustrated because they are not usually like this.

[maybeoneday]

I can't find an RE around here either...My RE says they do but they very rarely do them and when they do it isn't like other clinics do it.... so there is lawyers fees for me so it might not be much cheaper. I am actually calling some out of state clinics that do it often and they have the stuff together...if it's still cheaper I will try that...if not...we will go back to Bonnie.....After going through so many treatments and having several children already...we have to be more economical about this round.

Don't ya hate it when offices do that? Seems they never call back when you REALLY want to know something.

[jenjen78]

We started out working with Embryos Alive, but then we were told about Fertility and Surgical Associates in CA. (Dr Kumar is who we use). They have been awesome. We got pregnant the first try, but lost our pregnancy. We are currently pregnant again. We received 16 donated embryos. We live in Arkansas and even with travel to CA it was still cheaper than adopting embryos from Embryos Alive.

There is also a site called Miracles Waiting where you match with donor parents on your own and then have the embryos shipped to your clinic. I think the fee to join that website is $150 for a year.

[stacysea]

Congratulations JenJen!! Maybeoneday, the donor family did not accept us
So I am waiting for some new embryos to come out. I hope we get some soon. You know, my Dr office still has not called me back. Not about the embryology reports or for a follow to my saline ultrasound. I am very upset about that. I am going to call today and let them know I am upset. I have gone through alot of treatment with them and they have never been like this. I wonder if its because I am not doing expensive ivf or what. Oh well. Sorry for the vent!! Its been a while since I've posted. I go to school and its the end of the semester. Very busy.

[maybeoneday]

Oh, I am so sorry they didn't pick you guys. I know that's hard. We weren't accepted 5 times before we were, so don't loose hope!
I would be upset my my RE too! I would be all over them

Have you thought about the embryos that are from England? I'm not sure how set you guys are on an open arrangement. If our donation through my RE office doesn't work out, I was thinking about asking Bonnie about those. It sounds like there is no one to choose you but I don't know. The donation we are doing through our clinic is anonymous.....the donors want it that way, but we are able to register with a site that will allow us to connect anonymously if needed, or if the child ever wants to meet them, but I don't think you would be able to do that with ones from England.

I understand being busy....as you can see it has been awhile since I have been on here too.

[stacysea]

Maybe, we found some more embryos and my Dr office actually reviewed them within a couple days and said they look fantastic! So I asked Bonnie if she could submit our profile. I hope our luck is better this time!! How is your journey coming along?

[maybeoneday]

That's great! I hope this one turns out good for you guys.

We are still going through the process. We have been waiting for the donors to approve the contract the lawyer submitted to them. It seems like every time they need to do something, it takes them weeks to get it done. They have been playing phone tag with the lawyers office so I am praying they talk today. It's so hard waiting. You would think I would be better at it by now, but nope..I'm not

God's timing is perfect, I just have to keep reminding myself of that!

[stacysea]

Well that didnt work out either. When Bonnie submitted our profile to them they said they had already donated to someone they found on their own. I know what you mean about God's timing. At least thats what I keep telling myself!! So back to square one. Good luck with yours!!

[maybeoneday]

OOOO NOOOOO..they should have told her to take them off the list. What a bummer.

Well, if it makes you feel any better, we are back to square one too. After 3 months the donors decided to back out! They said it felt too "real" now. I do understand it I just wish they wouldn't have waited so long to decide that and she even went and had her blood work done. poo wee....Oh well, I prayed this morning for an answer today and I got it...just not the one I wanted Patience seems to be the one thing God loves to try me with because He knows I don't really have any.
The nurse will have to doctor look at the list tomorrow and call me with what she think we should go for now.
I did look at Bonnie's list today too. I am still trying to figure out the nationality of those ones coming from England. It sounds like they are caucasian and Indian mixed...like one of them were from India??

I hope some more become available for you soon.

[stacysea]

I know. It sucks. It does sound like one of the donors is from India. I didnt really see any other ones on there yet. She said she was getting some new ones in but she is having issues updating the website. So hopefully the new ones will be in soon!! Good luck.