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Post by jessaroni on Jul 10, 2010 21:00:27 GMT -5
We are the recipient of donated embryos and are expecting a baby girl next month. Ours was an anonymous donation so we do not know the donor couple, though we do have a fairly comprehensive medical history as well as basic physical characteristics.
For those that are recipients, do you plan to tell your child(ren) about how they were conceived? We plan on telling her as much as she can understand as soon as she can comprehend it. We plan to be very open with her.
So how will you handle it?
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Post by hopetc on Jul 11, 2010 17:28:02 GMT -5
Yes - we will fully disclose.
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Post by deh on Jul 11, 2010 22:37:08 GMT -5
We plan to be completely open with our child. I never want him/her to look back and remember a moment in time when they "found out." I just want it to always be a part of who he/she is. I really think that's better for the child.
We're in the beginning states of an anonymous donation through our clinic, so we also will not know the donor couple.
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Post by Karaleen on Jul 12, 2010 16:43:48 GMT -5
We are also expecting a girl (in Nov) through anonymous embryo donation. We plan on being very open with her. Our friends and family already know. I found some great books I plan to buy so that it is always a part of her knowledge base and there will never be a suprise to her about how she came to be our daughter....We also have a biological son through IVF so we will always be honest with him as well. Here is the link to the books .... www.xyandme.com/XYMe-Books.htm
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Post by EmbryoMom on Jul 14, 2010 17:47:33 GMT -5
It isn't a secret here. I'd never keep my child's genetics from her. But, it isn't the main focus of her existence either. She is who she is, our daughter, loved immensely from the moment of her conception. The fact of how she was created is a part of her and we are very thankful, but it isn't *who* she is, if that makes sense! We don't focus on it, but it isn't a secret either.
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Post by rainbowspromise on Aug 9, 2010 22:20:01 GMT -5
I agree that it's important to be completely open. Your kids will respect you more for it for being open than in hiding it. There's a website I was given by our clinic counsellor recently that has not only good books (like the one listed above) but also some articles by children of donors, from their perspective. I love this site... it's got a wealth of information for those of us in this unique world of donor-dom. www.donor-conception-network.org/
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