Interracial Embryos

[christine]

I'm fairly experienced in scouring the web for whatever I'm looking for but have hit a wall now.

I am 1/2 Korean & 1/2 Caucasian, my husband is all Caucasian. It seems that searching for Asian interracial embryos is extremely difficult. When I do come across the rare possibility of a match, the biggest problem I'm finding is that due to my mixed-race, I have a rather 'unique' look that isn't common at all and thus the embryos would most likely look misplaced in our family. I don't want my child to feel like they don't belong because they don't 'look' like the us. I felt that enough growing up to know how it feels- I don't want to subject my child-to-be to it.

I'm starting to see my resolve crumble & accept what I feel is settling - and that's not good. I refused to settle for a good enough man & was eventually blessed with my husband. Shouldn't I provide the same for my child-to-be? Enough of that.

I'm discovering that the variance in how all of our mixed genes are expressed creates even more diversity (duh! ) than those that stay within their own ethnicity.

We are on MW & EDI. But other than those sites, has anyone else seeking interracial embryos found a hidden away or new site/area (that's not an adoption agency) where the needs of interracial couples are addressed?

Even a place to commiserate would be great. I feel so alone in trying to fill not only our wants for another child, but to meet our cultural needs too. Plenty of people & places for the 1st heartache. Not so many for the 2nd part.

Thanks for reading!

[micweaver]

I wanted to wish you luck. We have been waiting on a list for almost a year at our clinic and are still waiting and were finally told by our clinic that we should find our own donor. We placed an ad on Miracles Waiting and we are hoping to get a response soon. I responded to a few ads on Miracle Waiting and one of them said they are going through all the responses and will contact us soon. I decided to call some other clinics once we get a response from one of the ads we responded to.

Did you place an ad on MW? I did notice on MW that someone was offering Asian-Caucasian mix embryos but have already matched with a couple.

[christine]

Thanks for responding!

Yes, we are listed on MW. Our difficulty is that an ancestry match is difficult. We would prefer ancestry match, but it isn't a requirement at all. We are also open to full caucasian or native american mix as well.

And yes, there are asian mix embryos listed, however they are southeast asian descent. Southeast asian (philipino, thai) is significant of a difference from the notheastern asians (chinese, korean, japanese) that we would prefer full caucasian. My sister has 2 daughters. One looks like a korean mix and the other looks fully caucasian, although they both have blue eyes. So either we go all caucasian or northeast asian mix.

I have found one more resource for those of us looking for donated embryos that may be of help to you. If you're interested, please private message me with your email address & I will send you more info.

Good Luck!

[irracore]

Hi ladies,
I am new to this forum but am desperately looking for more information as well. We have a daughter from IVF #1 but no success in subsequent attempts (3 fresh and 2 FETs) and are looking into donor embryos. We are at the top of the waiting list at our RE's for Caucasian mix embryos and I just registered on Miracles Waiting too. My husband is Caucasian, I am Malaysian (Asian Indian ethnicity) - while I am not expecting to get an exact match, I would love to be somewhat close. Any ideas/suggestions as to where else to look would be much appreciated. Thank you...

Irra

[micweaver]

A embryo donor listed on cafemom's embryo adoption forum that they had 2 Asian Indian embryos available. They prefer a couple with no children but you might want to contact them to see if they would consider a family with one child.

[ginamb]

Hello! Brand new to this forum as I was searching for interracial embryos online. The agency my clinic usually goes through only has Chinese/Caucasian embryos, but the family will only donate to a Chinese or Caucasian family. I am Filipino, and my husband is Caucasian. We are new to this process, and are already feeling discouraged by the small number of these Filipino/Caucasian embryos that have gone through our clinic. Only TWO in the past few years. If you have any further information on where I could research, that would be great! Thank you!